It’s been a while since my last blog and the world has changed such a great deal in that time scale. I hope that this read finds you safe and well and at home wherever possible.
My heart goes out to all those couples who have had to postpone their wedding this year due to the virus. I am quite lucky that only 1 of my wedding clients has had to postpone their July wedding this year, but has managed to get a better date in July next year – so every cloud has a silver lining!
Whilst we have all been awaiting information from the government on when couples may get married again, the latest announcement seems to suggest that from 15 June this year, weddings can go ahead but only with 10 people in attendance. For many this will create panic and upset and I really do feel for you but remember this, love CANNOT be postponed, and your relationship CANNOT be postponed and at the end of all this confusion you will still have each other.
Personally speaking, I wouldn’t be able to chose 10 people to celebrate with at my wedding when I have lots of people that I’d want to share the day with – so my suggestion (and its only a suggestion lol) is to postpone and start planning for next year.
For weddings to be able to take place in church, two things need to happen. Firstly, the government needs to permit gatherings of reasonable numbers indoors. The actual size of wedding and the number of guests you can invite may depend on the size of the church and the ability of guests to observe social distancing. Churches are permitted to open for private worship from mid-June. At the moment there is no official indication of when this might happen however the suggestion is that church weddings could be going ahead from August 2020.
The Church of England was one of the first to restrict weddings to their legal limit (the vicar, couple and two witnesses).
For weddings via a Registrar I would say get in touch with them directly as they are governed by whichever council they come under.
With the uncertainty on what venues will be able to offer you in relation to number of guests attending some are looking at providing marquees to accommodate the current rules however with this being financially viable it may well be that they would want to postpone your event anyway.
If you are still thinking of letting your wedding go ahead with limited guest, why not think of ways that you can still involve the guests that should have been there on the day, whether they can’t attend due to travel or shielding, or had to be removed from the guest list. Attending events remotely will be a common occurrence for the rest of 2020.
Invite them to watch a “live” stream. Ask your venue if you can nominate somone to do this for you – even via Facebook!
Share your order of service with guests
Send cake or cupcakes to surprise those not attending the day.
Above all, we must remember one thing. A wedding is about two people. It is great you’ll be able to have others there to celebrate with you, but don’t let worries over who can’t be there spoil the day for either of you. The most important thing about the day is you both.
If anyone would like to chat with me in confidence, all consultations are free and by zoom, skype or facetime during current times. You can always email me on Nicola@yousaidyes.co.uk or message me via facebook.